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Do
You Esteem Yourself?
Dr.
Bill Gaultiere
Executive
Director of New Hope
Here's
a short self-test to help you see how well esteem yourself. Each
question asks how you respond to a particular situation. Keep
track of your "yes" answers.
- Can you
maintain good feelings about yourself even if someone criticizes
you?
- When you
fail or do something wrong can you say you're sorry and accept
forgiveness or do you persist in feeling bad about yourself?
- Can you
offer a dissenting opinion to people you respect?
- If you
talked to one of your children or to your best friend the way
you talk to yourself would they feel esteemed?
- Do you
say thank you when you're complemented?
- Do you
avoid comparing yourself to others, thinking that you're better
than or less than they are?
- When you've
been hurt do you receive comfort from yourself and others instead
of hiding your pain?
- If your
spouse, roommate, or someone you're close to is in a bad mood
do you maintain your own feelings of well-being anyway (without
matching their mood)?
- Do you
know what your gifts and talents are and are you confident using
them?
- Can you
say "good enough" about a project you're working on
instead of being perfectionistic?
- Do you
appreciate your strengths and work to improve your weaknesses
instead of overlooking your strengths and feeling bad about
your weaknesses?
Scoring:
The more yes answers you have, the stronger your self-esteem.
Eight or more yes answers suggests that your self-esteem is in
good shape. Each no answers indicates an area that you need to
work on in order to strengthen your self-esteem.
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