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Is My
Husband a Sex Addict?
Dr. Bill Gaultiere
Does
your husband have a problem with compulsive sexual behavior?
This is a very painful issue and difficult to sort out. Ask yourself
these questions from the "AN ADDICT" self-test for sexual addiction
to see if this might be the problem you're experiencing with him.
1. A LONE?
Do you feel disconnected from him during sex? Does it seem that
he is unable to be emotionally intimate with you? Or does he
rarely want sex with you?
2. N ON-PREMEDITATED
USE? Is he abrupt with you sexually, neglecting loving conversation,
romance, and foreplay? Have you asked him to change his sexual
behavior but he refuses?
3. A MNESIA?
Does he lose track of time or forget appointments or commitments
because sex is on his mind?
4. D EPEND
ON HIGH? Do his moods depend on whether or not he gets sex?
Is he angry or irritable if you say no to sex?
5. D ISTRACTED?
Is he preoccupied with sex? Does he stare at other women? Does
he frequently make inappropriate sexual comments?
6. I NCREASED
TOLERANCE? Does it seem like he's never quite satisfied with
sex? That it's never enough?
7. C ONCEAL
SUPPLY? Does it seem like he's hiding something from you? Is
he spending lots of time or money that he is unaccountable for?
Does he have a stash of porn (magazines, videos, websites)?
8. T RANQUILIZER?
Do you feel used sexually? Like he got his fix and you're left
feeling hurt, violated, dirty, or abandoned?
Scoriing:
Three or more "yes" answers indicate that your husband may have
a problem with compulsive sex. To better understand what is wrong
and to get help consult in person with a doctor or psychotherapist.
Dr.
Bill Gaultiere is the Director of New Hope Crisis Counseling at
the Crystal Cathedral and a Psychologist with www.ChristianSoulCare.com.
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