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Father
Wounds and Blessings Inventory
William
Gaultiere, Ph.D.
Executive
Director of New Hope Crisis Counseling, Crystal Cathedral
Clinical
Psychologist & Spiritual Director, ChristianSoulCare.com
For each of the
12 questions below mark an "x" somewhere on the continuum in proximity
to the description that best fits your relationship with your father
as a child.
1.
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| Abandoned
me |
Loyal/Stuck
with me |
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2.
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| Addicted/Compulsive |
Self-controlled/Sober |
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3.
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| Didn't
provide well for me |
Provided
what I needed |
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4.
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| Emotionally
detached |
Showed
concern for how I felt |
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5.
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| Too serious
with me |
Fun
to be with |
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6.
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| Critical/Demanding
of Me |
Accepting/Affirming
of me |
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7.
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| Spoiled/indulged
me |
Taught
me to be responsible |
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8.
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| Punitive
with me |
Disciplined
me in love |
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9.
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| Didn't
believe in me or challenge me |
Encouraged
me to do my best |
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10.
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| Abusive/Harsh
with me |
A
"gentle-man" with me |
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11.
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| Depressive/Inhibited |
Confident/Empowering |
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12.
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| Treated
mom well/Respected females |
Loved/Respected
mom, females |
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How
to Respond to Your Inventory
The questions
which you marked your "x" at the left end represent your "father
wounds." These are hurts that need healing so that you can be
freed. They are losses to grieve, wrongs to forgive, and areas
you may still need fathering in so that you don't pass the hurt
on to others.
The questions
which you marked your "x" at the right end represent your "father
blessings." These are gifts to appreciate and to hold dear in
your heart. You want to thank your father and God for these blessings
often.
William
Gaultiere, Ph.D. offers "Christian Soul Care" as a Clinical Psychologist
and Spiritual Director in Irvine, CA. He is also the Executive Director of the New Hope Crisis
Counseling Center at the Crystal Cathedral where he's trained over
1,000 people in Christian counseling skills. He offers free encouraging
articles on Psychology, Family, and Christian Spirituality and a
monthly e-mail devotional that you can sign up for at his website,
ChristianSoulCare.com.
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