NEW HOPE
CE EXAM, February 2003
William
Gaultiere, Ph.D.
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A-B-C Counseling
Skills Role-Play with CS Lewis
Imagine
that C. S. ("Jack") Lewis from the movie "Shadowlands" called
or chatted with New Hope about his new wife dying of cancer.
Consider the background information and sample comments by Jack
below and then offer some possible New Hope Counselor responses,
using the "A-B-C's of New Hope Counseling" to guide you.
Background
Jack is
a successful Christian author and professor of theology and
philosophy at Oxford College in England. Later in life he met
and befriended Joy, a divorced woman from America with a 9-year
old son who has read all of his books. She challenges him with
her honesty and her zeal to experience all that life has to
offer. To help her live in England he marries her "technically"
and they continue to live separate and be friends. Later, she
gets cancer and is given a short time to live. He falls in
love and marries her before God and the world.
Re-cap
of the movie scene
Joy from
her hospital bed: "You seem different. You look at me properly
now."
Jack: "I
don't want to lose you Joy."
Beginning
of the New Hope call/chat: Active
Listening
Jack: "My
wife is dying of cancer. We were friends for a few years, but
we just got married a month ago."
Your open
question/probe to invite deeper self-disclosure: "What do you
appreciate most about Joy?"
Your summary
statement: "You've finally found your soul mate and you wish
you could hold her close forever."
Your feeling
reflection: "The though of losing the love of your life is
so sad for you."
Middle
of New Hope call/chat: Brainstorming
an action step
Jack: "I
don't want to lose her."
Your open
question/probe to generate ideas: "What ideas do you have for
making the time you have with her meaningful?"
Another
open question/probe to help him solve his problem: "What's another
idea that comes to mind?"
End of
the New Hope call/chat: Close
with reinforcing plan and offering prayer
Jack: "I
so much want to enjoy the time I have with her."
Your summary
statement to confirm his step: "So one thing you want to do
to make the most of the time you have with her is to take a
special trip with her to Golden Valley."
Your prayer:
"Dear God, I lift up my friend Jack to you. The thought of
losing his wife and best friend seems more than he can bear.
He loves her so much. She is such a gift to him. We ask you
to intervene to heal Joy, to somehow extend her days of healthy
living. He needs your comfort and strength to carry on and
to enjoy the time he has with her now. Bless this trip he plans
to take with Joy to Golden Valley. Meet them and give them
special memories together. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen."
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